If we do not make the exchange from self-will to obeying and submitting to God’s will, we will continue to love ourselves more than we love others (and their best interests). Then we will react immaturely because we still want our way in matters of life and love. We will argue and fuss with others; we will express our strong opinions stubbornly; we will take our ball and glove and go home when we don’t like gentle restraints; and we will generally act “the fool” when we could be greatly influential.
By refusing to negatively react to others and to situations, we can choose to develop and walk in emotional maturity.
Doing this means we are choosing to respond positively (or not at all), rather than to react negatively in retaliation or in self-defense.
Each of us has the daily opportunity to choose respectful behavior that supports healthy relationships. This kind of behavior includes choosing to communicate well and respectfully, and to refrain from wasting energy on defending ourselves.
A lie, is a lie, is a lie. We will never have enough time, energy, or power to chase down, capture, and correct lies.
It is like chasing the wind. We must choose to spend our time, energy, and power being influential and doing all we can do with all we have each day. Focusing on what others are saying (especially when they are lying about us) is a futile waste of our best days. Being drawn into defending ourselves places us right at the center of the merry-go-round of lies. I don’t know about you, my friend, but I will not ride that sickening merry-go-round!
And defending ourselves also includes retelling a story in such a way that causes the other person (or people) to look bad in their behavior while we prop ourselves up to be the pitiful victim who did no wrong; or who only behaved badly in self-defense. Hog wash and not Christ-like! Stop it.
Choose to live in the joy of life and be all you can be in your world.
Encouraging truths about growing up emotionally and stopping the adult temper tantrums and drama from Devaney Rae’s book, Countless Joys: The Place Beyond Tears (Westbow Press, 2015). Read More: http://www.amazon.com/Devaney-Rae/
Living in the Joy of Life,
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