No Little Girl Ever Aspired to Be a Prostitute – Ever!

Many people are confused about the difference between human trafficking and prostitution.

Much can be said to explain the differences, but the first difference must happen in the heart of the hearer; that is the difference between judgement TOWARD others and compassion FOR others.

This heart position is required for the hearer to genuinely understand the differences between human trafficking and prostitution.

The selling and buying of sexuality is all about vulnerability. Traffickers and buyers of sexuality prey on the vulnerable among us because people who buy and sell humans are cowards. Likewise, cowards do not have the wherewithal to prey upon a strong, healthy person. Never, ever lose sight of this truth: the selling and buying of sexuality is ALL about preying on the vulnerable.

Human trafficking involves the use of force, fraud, or coercion by the trafficker toward the victim regarding the exchange of sex or labor for monetary gain by the trafficker.This legal definition of human trafficking does not require transportation of the victim, nor does it require the victim to comprehend that he or she is, in fact, a victim. Many victims of human trafficking actually believe their trafficker loves them, as in “he is my boyfriend”or “he is my family.”

Furthermore, when the use of force, fraud, or coercion by the trafficker toward a victim involves someone under the age of 18 – the act is automatically deemed human trafficking – no questions asked, legally speaking.

Prostitution is looked upon by most people as a willful choice by the prostitute to exchange his or her sexuality for money from a buyer. Even when there is a third party involved between the seller and buyer of sexual acts (usually called a pimp), the sexual activity of a prostitute is generally viewed as a choice to prostitute one’s sexuality – a choice to live the lifestyle of a prostitute.

So, if the third party pimp keeps a portion of, or all of, the money gained from the sexual activity between the prostitute and the buyer – how is this arrangement any different from the activity of human trafficking?

  • Much of the differences are in the mindset of society because in reality (facts and truth), there is very little to no difference.
  • The legal definition difference is supposed to be related to the absence of “force, fraud, or coercion” by the trafficker (a.k.a., the pimp) toward the victim (a.k.a., the prostitute). In other words, the pimp is not forcing, defrauding, or coercing the prostitute to exchange sexuality for monetary gain. [REALLY??!!!]
  • Simply stated, social views and laws have not “caught up” with the facts and truth under girding this horrible abuse and use of human beings.
  • Because 99% of buyers of sexuality are men, this behavior has historically been looked upon by society as, “boys will be boys” behavior.
  • With the current trend research findings related to the complex trauma of abuse, we now know that the greater majority of ALL people being sold for their sexuality are people who have been sexually, physically, verbally, emotionally, and mentally abused as children. Information about Chronic Trauma and Its Effects

The bottom line truth about the difference between human trafficking and prostitution is this: There is no difference, except where social attitudes and the prevailing laws are involved.
The entire atrocious scenario of trafficking a human being for their sexuality is about preying on the vulnerable among us! Strong, healthy, whole, thriving people do not generally sell their sexuality to  multiple strangers on a regular basis!

1_devaney_12months_mirror-copyConsider This: No little girl I know has ever aspired to enter into the world of trading her sexuality for money “when she grows up.” Ever.

Something happened between the time she was an innocent dreamer and the first time her body was sold (or stolen) in exchange for money from a buyer (or thief) of sex. Guess what? That “something that happened to her” was not good, healthy, or filled with her God-given potential.

That girl or guy who is a victim of the sex trade is still someone’s daughter/ son, sister/ brother, or mother/ father! What if each of us looked upon “that woman” (we call a prostitute) as a little girl we know today – one whom we love, adore, and have so much delightful hope for.

This perspective might help us to view “that woman” as the innocent, dreaming little girl she still longs to be.

Then, we might reach out to her with love and compassion and try to help her experience genuine love – the kind that will help her to reach and fulfill her God-given potential in this life.

I know that most “prostitutes” don’t seem to want help and their lives are littered with a myriad of complex behavioral problems.

Guess What? Your life would be, too, if you sold your sexuality multiple times a week to strangers! Think about the reality of that scenario.
After our compassion takes a little deeper root unto some action, maybe we can advocate in our State legislatures for the laws to be changed to support Law Enforcement’s efforts to stop all forms of human trafficking – including the ugly act called prostitution.

Interrupting Human Trafficking,

Devaney

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